She Can’t Tell You’re One of the Good Ones
A woman I know changed the name on her delivery accounts to “Butch.” Not because she likes the name. Because with her real name on the order,...
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THOUGHT OF THE DAY: LOVE IS BLIND, BUT GROUP CHATS HAVE 20/20 VISION AND SCREENSHOTS. /// DIRTY PRO TIP: IF SHE'S NOT WET YET, FOREPLAY ISN'T OVER. YOU'RE JUST IMPATIENT. SLOW DOWN, USE YOUR MOUTH, AND LET HER BODY GIVE YOU THE GREEN LIGHT. /// LIFE ADVICE: "SORRY YOU FEEL THAT WAY" IS NOT AN APOLOGY. OWN YOUR PART OUT LOUD AND FIX THE THING. /// PHOTO THREADS RUN ALL WEEK ON THE FACEBOOK PAGE. THE COMMENTS ARE THE SHOW. /// DIRTY PRO TIP: IF SHE'S NOT WET YET, FOREPLAY ISN'T OVER. YOU'RE JUST IMPATIENT. SLOW DOWN, USE YOUR MOUTH, AND LET HER BODY GIVE YOU THE GREEN LIGHT. /// LIFE ADVICE: "SORRY YOU FEEL THAT WAY" IS NOT AN APOLOGY. OWN YOUR PART OUT LOUD AND FIX THE THING. /// PHOTO THREADS RUN ALL WEEK ON THE FACEBOOK PAGE. THE COMMENTS ARE THE SHOW. ///
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Five habits that make you better to love.
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Use Your Words
You’re a grown adult in a whole relationship. If you want something, open your mouth and ask for it. Hinting is just hoping with extra steps.
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Pay Attention On Purpose
Put the phone down and actually look at your person. They know the difference. I promise you.
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Apologize Like a Grown-Up
“Sorry you feel that way” is not an apology, that’s a dodge. Own your part out loud and fix the thing.
04
Want a Yes, Not a Whatever
If it ain’t an enthusiastic yes, it’s a no wearing a polite face. Enthusiasm or nothing.
05
Grow or Go
You either keep becoming somebody worth loving, or you stay the same and call it their problem.
Latest Articles
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Nobody Is Reading Your Mind
Good partners still need clear requests. A funny, practical look at hints, mind-reading, emotional bids, and the responsibilities on both sides.
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A red-pen review of a fictional dating bio invites kinky readers to develop a bigger identity without apologizing for their community.
Read article →Weaponized Incompetence Is Still a Choice
A household performance review that exposes the invisible mental load while distinguishing manipulation from ordinary mistakes and access needs.
Read article →Compersion, Explained
Compersion, jealousy, and privacy explained with humor, accessible history, and no imaginary test for being good at polyamory.
Read article →Desire Isn’t Broken. It’s Responsive.
A plainspoken guide to spontaneous and responsive desire, stress, intimacy, and why nobody owes anybody an ignition sequence.
Read article →Get It Off Your Chest
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Anonymous Confessions
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Everything else worth staying up for.
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The Monday Munch Archive
The show is over. The best of it lives on, 63 clips and 45.5 hours, cut from the old Monday Munch.
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Photo Threads
Running all week on the Facebook Page. Anonymous submissions, loud compliments, and the comments are the show.
See this week’s threads →03
Soapbox Saturday
A weekly rant with his whole chest, and the comments are the second soapbox. First one lands Saturday, November 21.
Be there →04
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