Exploring the World of BDSM Questionaire

There are many people in the BDSM community with a diverse and unique perspective of what it means to them. Today I am here to give you some statistics on the subject of what does BDSM means to you. We have 16 lovely participants today who are both from the kinkslayer community, people who have volunteered and a few pros, who have answered a handful of questions for us. The participants would be: Mister, Dreamweaver, Juniper Jenn, Skin Deep Rae, LoveableLora, Lunara, Moop, S.L.U.T. Bunny, Eve, Matt, Ms. Crimson, Baron Vonfury, Madame X, Shadow, and Alexq. The answers are in no particular order as to not expose people. Thank you all for participating in this questionnaire.

First question: what do you identify most with.

21.4% said a Switch, 21.4% said Dom, 21.4% said Sub, 7.1% said Sensualist, 7.1% said Masochist, 7.1% said Sadist, 7.1% said Brat, 7.1% said Little/Pup.

Second question: Do you use toys in your play?

100% said yes. It is also completely ok not to use toys, this is a small sample of what the community is.

Third question: what toys do you use in play?

Mostly cuffs plus vibes and dildos

Various impact items, vibrators, dildos, plugs, rope

Wand, Floggers, Pervertables, vibrators, butt plugs, and many more

Paddle, flogger, dildo, whartenburg wheel, strap on

Vibrators, strap-on, more

canes, paddles, dildos, single tail.

Wands, vibrators, didos, but plugs, bondagerope, cuffs, spanking implants.

Plugs dildos floggers

Non sexually pacis and stuffies

Sexually a magic wand as well as plugs and a dildo

Vibrators, floggers, candles, butt plugs, rope

Satisfyer sexy secret, Satisfyer powerful one cock ring, Satisfyer hot lover wand, Juniper Jenn’s looped/long/and short flogger, We-vibe duo, a wooden spoon with sheep leather, and a dollar tree wood ruller.

Dildos vibrators cock cage clamps handcuffs paddles whatever’s available

Floggers, slappers, paddles, restraints

Floggers, paddles, canes, vampire gloves, cat-o-ninetails

Fourth question: what are you into specifically?

 My interests are varied depending on my mood and who I’m with

My kinks vary. I am mainly a pleasure Dom so I’m heavy into Sensory Deprivation as my main play style

Exhibitionism

Pain

Cross dressing, puppy play, role- play, strap-on foot worship

Others kinks and happiness

Ageplay, CG/l role play, power exchange, sissification, feminization, femdom

Bdsm pain

Exhibitionist (especially spanks) and Adventurous

Im a switch and im into everything giving pain receiving pain teasing ill try anything once

Impact play and bondage

Sadism, primal predator, dress up, roleplay, boot worship, making people cry, fear infliction, and blood play.

bare handed spanking, affectionate domination, aftercare, breeding, ass worship, bdsm, being called a good boy, bisexuality, biting, bondage, bondage tape, breast/nipple play, breasts, bukkake, butt plugs in public, remote toys in public, fetish/kink wear in public, candle wax, caning, chains, chastity devices, choking/gagging, clamps and clips, clit spanking, cock and ball torture, cosplay, cuddling with benefits, cunnilingus, roleplay, deep throating, degradation, dildos, discipline, double penetration, erotic literature, erotic photography, eye contact, face fucking, cumming on face, cum on tits, cum play, fingering, handjobs, jerking off, public mastrubation, genital piercings, goth, metal, hair pulling, handcuffs, humiliation, humor, impact play, impregnation, intelligence, kissing, leather bondage, lingerie, makeup, making out, and more

Fifth queation: How did you get into this lifestyle?

I met a dominatrix

Experimenting

Experimentation from a young age

Something the wife and I talked about and explored together

Its always been an interest of mine

I had a friend that was a pro dom. She was my introduction to the scene. I wanted to be her and own my own slaves. She was famous at the time -Madame X

Long story. Education one very exceptional evening and seriously growth within myself.

I got curios and ran into it

I’ve been a little for as long as I can remember tbh. Known about the community since I was pretty young but didn’t join until the last couple years

Curiosity

Smut books 😅

Stumbled across it on pornhub as a kid and knew i was into it

Began to explore with a partner 15+ years ago.

Always working on this kinda stuff, a friend told me what it was called

Sixth question: Are you Pro or causal?

78.6% said casual, while 21.4% said they were Pros.

Seventh question: Any advice for People looking to get into the lifestyle?

Trust noone til you getto know them

Safety first. Both physical and emotional.

Learn yourself and be honest about who you are. If you’re a Dom, be a Dom. If you’re a sub, be a sub. Knowing yourself and your limits are key to having a successful life in the kink world.

Don’t forget the key components of the lifestyle, SSC and RACK amongst many other things

Communication is key

Just have fun free your mind and body be safe

Go to workshops and do research. Join lifestyle groups and join Fetlife

Come to Monday Munch!

Do plenty of research and find groups and communities

Try to let go of any shame you feel

Know ur limits and trust your partner

If you want to try it take your partner to the adult toy store and ask where the bdsm section is and just look at things together and talk about things. Most importantly though go SLOW and research everything! It’s surprisingly easy to get hurt even with the safest items you can buy

The less you try the better results you have almost everyones kinky or will try anything once also i feel like if your struggling to find someone maybe try and sterotype the person a little ive seen tattoos and piercings usually mean kinky

Examine different types of kink play beyond what fiction and movies portray. Understand your hard limits and be upfront about them.

Don’t be afraid to try new things, always pay attention to repeating factors in your life that like writing a character who does a certain thing like step on people multiple times, research beforehand, never rush into play or finding a partner.

This concludes our questionnaire, I hope everyone is able to see a bit more into the lifestyle. If you have any questions or topics to discuss, please drop them in the comments. I’m so happy to see people interested in this lifestyle and to see everyone’s progress in it as well as what they explore through themselves.

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